Why do we do what we do?
Why do we say things we don’t mean?
Why do we leave conversations thinking, ahhh f***k?
I needed those answers. So like you, I went looking for them.
I started with the academic route, focusing on psychology, sociology, philosophy, history, and behavioural linguistics. I wanted to understand human behaviour from every angle I could get my hands on.
At the same time, I was building businesses and working across tech, software, and corporate environments. For over a decade, I worked with people across every part of life — work, home, relationships — and the main thing it all had in common was communication (which all kinda sucked...)
I saw the power communication had in shaping businesses, relationships, and who we become. But I also saw the other side. Bad communication. Autopilot. Unprocessed baggage showing up in teams, in leadership, in pressure, in conflict.
And what has become so clear — not just to me, but to so many of us — is this:
We are completely confused (and overwhelmed) about what relationships are, and how they *actually* work.
That’s how How To Human started.
The irony of our modern age is that there is information EVERYWHERE but this often makes it worse, not better. Because even with all the knowledge, all the frameworks, all the thinking… we’re still not communicating well.
Which means our relationships — at work and at home — feel more overwhelming than ever.
We react in ways we didn't want to.
We misunderstand each other.
We repeat the same patterns, which make us frustrated, lonely and in dire need of more...
So we do not really need MORE information, more theories, and more 'experts'. We need a place to make the unconscious, conscious. That gap, between knowing and actually doing, is where most people stay stuck. I couldn’t find a space that actually worked with that.
So I built one.
This isn’t *just*self-development.
It’s conscious relational work.
How To Human is built on one core idea:
You are not just an individual. You are a relational being.
Who you are shows up most clearly when you’re with someone else.
Your patterns.
Your triggers.
Your assumptions.
Your ability to listen, to speak, to stay grounded and calm...or not.
Everything reveals itself in conversation.
That’s why communication is the doorway to consciousness.
It’s where the truth actually comes out. I don’t believe in surface-level advice. I don’t believe in scripts. And I definitely don’t believe that understanding yourself in isolation is enough.
The moment you’re in a real conversation, most of those scripts and theories you learnt once disappears… and autopilot takes over. This work is about breaking that. It’s about learning how to:
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notice what’s happening in the moment
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take responsibility for how you’re showing up, top make real lasting changes
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and actually choosing how you respond to every situation (no more autopliot and unconscious behaviours...)
The key is not to sit in hindsight analysing only for it to happen again. With the How to Human approach you break patterns in real time, in real conversations wtih real people. That’s where real change happens.
The How to Human method...
Everything inside How To Human is built on a multidisciplinary approach.
Because no single lens explains what it means to be human. We draw from behavioural linguistics, psychology, philosophy, and broader ways of understanding how people think, relate, and communicate. But more importantly, we apply it.
The method is simple. But what it asks of you is not.
01. Curiosity
Curiosity is what gets you out of autopilot (your unconscious patterns). Most of us, enter conversations already thinking we know how it will end. We go in with unchallenged assumptions about ourselves, others and the world.
Curiosity, the way we teach it, interrupts that automatic bejaviour based on the baggage, youdon't *think* is impacting your conversations.
Curiosity shifts you from reacting to what you think is happening to actually noticing what is happening especially between you and the other person.
Without curiosity, you’re not communicating. You’re defending, assuming, and repeating. With it, you start asking better questions, listening differently, and seeing the dynamic more clearly.
02. Awareness
Awareness is where you start seeing what’s actually driving you in real time. Most of us think we’re super aware because we can explain what happened after something happened. But that kind of awareness comes too late to change anything.
Real awareness is noticing your patterns as they show up. Becoming aware of the tone in your voice or seeing the moment you get defensive and the understanding where you play a role in the escalating of a situation.
It’s becoming aware of what you value, and how you make meaning from the world, all while a conversation is still happening. Awareness, the way we teach it, is not about analysing yourself endlessly. It’s about catching yourself in the act, so you actually have access to something different.
Without awareness, you stay inside your patterns. With it, you begin to see the dynamic you’re part of, not just the story in your head.
03. Accountability
One of the most critical areas of any real change, but deeply overlooked in traditional communication training. Accountability is where the work stops being theoretical.
You cannot control another person. And most of the time, that’s exactly where we try to focus. We focus on what they said. What they did. What they should have done differently.
Accountability shifts that.It requires us to become aware of how we show up in a situation, what baggage we bring into a conversation and what we avoid, reinforce and react to.
We co-create every situation we are in, and through accountability we can actually change it, and see results.
Accountability, the way we teach it, is what moves you out of autopilot and into choice. Without it, awareness becomes something you reflect on later. With it, you start changing how you participate in the moment.
No more overthinking. This is where you do something about it.
1-1 Coaching
This is where we work directly with your real conversations. The conversations you’re avoiding. The ones that didn’t go the way you wanted. The ones you keep replaying afterwards. You bring them in, and we work through them together.
So you can say what you mean, handle difficult moments properly, and stop repeating the same patterns.
Our work follows the How To Human method, so you’re not just talking things through, you’re learning how to actually apply curiosity, awareness, and accountability in real time.
And between sessions, you’ll have voice note access to me. So when something happens in the moment, you’re not left figuring it out alone… or waiting until it’s over to understand it.
This is where awareness becomes something you can actually use.
The Flagship Programmes
The programmes are the deeper container. They are built as a hybrid experience, because this work cannot happen through learning alone.
Inside the programmes, you get structured content such as 12+ hours of videos, e-books, and material designed to help you understand your patterns, your communication, and how you show up in relationships.
But more importantly, you don’t sit with that knowledge on your own. You get 1:1 coaching sessions every month, and ongoing voice note access, so you can engage with the work while your life is actually happening.
This isn’t therapy but it’s not just a course either. It’s a space where you learn something… and then immediately apply it. So instead of understanding things afterwards, you start responding differently in the moment. That’s the difference.
I will never give you a script. I will never give you a one-size-fits-all. What I will do is help you figure out how you actually want to show up, and then hold you to it. No fluff. No pretending. Just real conversations, handled properly.